How to Be Confident by Letting Go

As discussed previously, building core confidence involves letting go of the limiting beliefs and negative emotions that are holding you back. Letting go is an ongoing process of identifying and releasing deeply rooted, subconscious beliefs and emotions.

• It’s not enough to simply try to “think positive” or “be more confident.” You must address the root causes of your insecurities and fears.
• You need to “communicate with the virus”, the part of you that holds you back, by asking yourself “shadow questions” that probe these deep-seated beliefs.
• These questions force you to confront the negative thoughts and emotions that you might be suppressing, like, “Why am I not good enough?” or “Why do I not deserve success?” .
• It’s essential to write down the answers that come up, even if they seem irrational or illogical, because this helps to make them more real and tangible, allowing you to work on them more effectively.
• Once you’ve identified these limiting beliefs, you can start to let go of them through practices like meditation, journaling, or talking to a therapist.

The importance of taking action and getting triggered as a means of uncovering and releasing these subconscious issues.

• This might involve putting yourself in situations that make you uncomfortable, like public speaking or socializing with new people.
• As you take action, pay attention to your emotional and physical reactions. These reactions are clues to the underlying beliefs and emotions that are driving your behavior.
• By repeatedly exposing yourself to these triggers and allowing yourself to experience your emotions fully, you can start to break down the hold they have over you. This process of “action, trigger, release, repeat” is crucial for lasting transformation.

Importantly, this work can be challenging and uncomfortable.

• Facing your shadow self and acknowledging your deepest fears is not easy.
• However, it’s crucial to push through the resistance and keep going.
• As you continue to let go, you’ll find that you have more energy, feel lighter, and are less reactive to triggers. You’ll also be more able to express yourself authentically and live a more fulfilling life.

Finally, it’s important to surround yourself with people who support you on your journey.

• This could involve joining a community of like-minded individuals, working with a coach or therapist, or simply talking to a trusted friend or family member.
• Having a support system in place can make the process of letting go less daunting and help you stay motivated.

Remember, building core confidence is a journey, not a destination. There will be ups and downs along the way, but by committing to the process of letting go, you can unlock a level of confidence and authenticity that you never thought possible.